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Flying tonight

Have you ever checked in at an airport, prior to an overnight flight to the UK ... wandered up to the departure lounge, and looked around at your fellow travelers. The more there are, the more crowded the plane. And perhaps you've unfairly stereotyped them too - thinking that the families with young children running around are going to be disruptive, and the people who don't fit into a single seat in the waiting area probably won't fit into a single seat on the plane. And as the crowd grows, you're beginning to realise that it's likely to be 'every seat taken'.

Two thirds of passengers are male - [ref] and that can be up to 80% on business flights [ref]. Passengers on business flights tend to be a little older too [ref] - two thirds over the age of 35. So the stunning young lady, seated on her own and waiting to board the Mexico City to London flight I took in August was certainly not "your regular traveler". I will admit to thinking to myself "goodness - I wonder if she's on our flight" and decided that she was probably going somewhere far warmer than Gatwick; those shorts would be really cold in England, even in high summer.

Well ... it turned out that she was on our flight, and indeed was seated next to me ("oh good - she'll fit into just one seat, even in economy") ... and during the flight, I learned once again not apply a set of stereotyping rules - all you can get is a general overview, and not anything specific. That must be left until you know the individual better.

On forums, such as the Coffee Shop, we have a hierarchy of members - from guests and newbies through to senior and hero members. A handful of members are invited to become moderators - primary function to greet newcomers and provide helpful information, secondary function to keep eyes and ears open and offer a gently restraining influence (or less gentle on rare occasions when 'gentle' doesn't work). And from that handful, there are a couple of administrators who are all-powerful, but trusted and mature to the full extent that the forum owner knows they will always act well even in the heat of the moment.

But as well as that formal heirarcy, there's an informal one too. There are junior members who are regarded as oracles well above their formal rank, there are members (such as myself) who have a very patchy knowledge and will ask "should know better" questions, and there are others who will lead, and others listen, in the same formal rank. And it's all the more startling when you look to compare statistics like the average time on the site per post made, and the proportion of posts that are topic starters v follow ups.

As a moderator, I have to take the formal hierarchy into account as I follow up posts - blow a gentle not of caution, answer a question. But should I take regard of the informal too? Now that is a difficult question.

On one hand, I should treat everyone as an individual case, but on the other hand the rules and direction should be equally applied. The question arose again this evening, with a report of a follow up post that verged on being a personal attack on a fellow member. But then looking to see which member was the 'victim', I found that it was a member who almost courts controversy at times, and has let me know "I can look after myself - you don't need to step in on my behalf" in the past? My decision? To post a follow up on the thread. To indicate that it was getting near to the limits, and that it had been noted (and reported). Letting the posters know that they shouldn't go much further.

Would I have made the same decision if the instigator wasn't XxxxxxXxxxx but Zzz? Probably not; I would have come down somewhat harder on the originator of the reported post - but then, such are forum metrics, I doubt whether he WOULD have gone anywhere near a personal attack on Zzz. Such is the informal hierarchy and the closed loop of relationships that everyone feeds and grows on.

But why did my 'incident' this evening remind me of Gisela? Was it her Risotto recipe? No ... the young lady was traveling on her own to London to complete her doctorate on formal and informal hierarchies within on line communities - and I couldn't help being reminded of one of the most interesting and technical / web conversations I have ever had on a transatlantic flight. I hope her thesis is going well, and that our little community, should she have looked at it at all, is seen in a positive light. I suspect she has looked - she was telling me (once she knew I was into the rail thing) about how few trains stop at her local station of St John's ... and I was telling her that when I used that line as a child, there were four platforms and not two ... but tat the place was still missed out by an awful lot of services that stopped at all the OTHER stations on the line.
(written 2009-12-05, updated 2009-12-10)

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